Find a gorgeous woman (or man), marry her (or him), and live happily ever after. But movies always end before the fireworks (what your friend calls “zing-pop”) die down. The longest it can last is three years, and often it’s less.
On average the emotional highs last between eighteen months and three years. If what he’s looking to hold his marriage together for “many, many, many years” is sexual attraction, he’s setting himself up for disappointment. When two believers come together in marriage, they have the potential, when the giddy feelings ebb, to leave what C. Lewis calls the “thrill” phase of romance for the “quieter and more lasting kind of interest …
Okay, that’s my paraphrase, but what other conclusion can one draw from a reply that begins thusly: If only it were that simple! Every marriage moves beyond the new-love, high-octane phase eventually, according to Psychologist Dorothy Tennov.
For example, I recently sent the Boundless article “” to one of my single guy friends.
Here’s what he had to say about it: I agree, but what about the spark?
Biblical Christians, however, are called to think differently.
We are to use Scripture as the measure of our desires.